Life Without Baby

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Certainty October 26, 2012

Where do you see yourself in 10 years?

I always used to have an answer to that question. For a time the answer was, “Raising my children and writing brilliant novels in my spare time.”

These days I don’t have a clear vision of how my life will look 10 years from now. It’s not to say that I don’t have goals and plans—I have plenty of those—but what I no longer feel I have is certainty. I really have no clue where or who I’ll be in 10 years time.

After a strange week, where I’ve felt sure of nothing, I always know that there’s one thing I can count on. If I walk around the corner from my house and go down the hill, I will find the ocean. Some days it will be calm and enticing, other days—like today—it will be wild and intimidating. But it will always be there. And if I am here, in this place, 10 years from now, I can be absolutely certain that the ocean will be there, too.

If you’re feeling uncertain right now, what’s the one thing you can count on?


10 Responses to “Certainty”

  1. Crystal Says:

    Your post made me think. I feel a little like you do…like I’m not sure anymore. But I know that God will still be there in 10 years, no matter what my life looks like.

  2. Amelia Says:

    The only thing I can count on these days are my parents, other than that my future fills me with fear….

  3. Klara Says:

    Loved your post!

    If somebody asked me this question 10 years ago, I would have very exact answer (and it would include all details about our three geourgous children, including the years when each of them would be born: 2004, 2006 and 2008).

    I was completely lost when our life didn’t go the way we planned.

    After years of suffering, I found my inner peace. I am OK at this moment.
    And I am OK with not having any fixed plan.
    I do not need to plan everything.
    I do not need to know everything.

    The only thing that I feel certain about is, that in 10 years – if I am still healthy and working, I am sure that I will still have the adventerous girl inside of me: who just can not wait when to go on the next travelling adventure.
    The world is just beautiful. So many beautiful places to discover!

    By the way: Have you ever been to sLOVEnia?
    It is the only country in the world that includes word LOVE 🙂 in its English version of the name.

    More info:

  4. Maria Says:

    I read your post and thought about it for several hours before responding. The one thing I am absolutely sure about it is I will always have my sense of humor and be able to make people laugh. This is a very interesting question and really made me think today about my future and myself in an entirely different way. Thank you for that.

  5. Amel Says:

    I’ve always been a planner and I used to plan WAYYYYYYY ahead of time…but now I focus more on enjoying the moment. I don’t really have any big detailed long-term dreams anymore, but that’s OK. After all, life is full of surprises and though it may not go as planned, sometimes the surprises aren’t bad, either. 😀 And I focus more now on cherishing the time I have left with hubby and building memories together. 😀 What do I see 10 years from now? Hopefully gracefully growing old together with hubby, still doing the things we love doing together and perhaps we’ll have invented many more things to do together. 😀

    • Amel Says:

      Btw, Lisa, I just want to THANK YOU for this space and for this blog and for the guest bloggers as well. THANKS for allowing us to voice our feelings and thoughts. This is one of my safe havens in IF world. 😀 God bless you!

  6. Mon petit tresor Says:

    Your post Made me thinking too, and I realize, that I prefer not thinking too much about it. Trying to enjoy my Life today even if I also need to dream about tomorrrow (sorry for my english : i’m a french woman without baby…)

  7. jthorne Says:

    I think the only certainty is the uncertainty of life and being somewhat at peace with that. As an admitted control freak and planner, this is my ongoing life lesson. I guess that’s why we need to live in the moment. So, where do I see myself in 10 years? I’m really not sure.

  8. jeopardygirl Says:

    Truth? I’m certain of my daily routine, my love for my family and their love for me. Beyond that, everything is a crapshoot. I’m learning to drive–at age 41–because 5 years ago, I didn’t know I’d be living in a small town in the middle of nowhere. I’m daring myself to things that previously scared me, because I’m no longer waiting for Plan A to come to fruition, and life is too short to put stuff off. It’s the risk that makes the reward worthwhile.

  9. Hope Says:

    I agree with Crystal. I have no way of knowing what the future will hold for me, but I do know that God will be with me, whatever happens.

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