Life Without Baby

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Whiny Wednesday January 4, 2012

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It’s the first Whiny Wednesday of the year. In case you’re joining us for the first time, Whiny Wednesday is the one day of the week where we don’t have to play nice. It’s your chance to blow off steam, rant about injustices, and generally complain about life. It’s an open forum to whatever’s on your chest off it, so don’t hold back. Whine away!


9 Responses to “Whiny Wednesday”

  1. Kate B Says:

    It’s cold out.

    • Mary Says:

      It’s too hot here! (Australia)

      And I just got a belated Christmas letter from a friend–an entire page about her children, including the ‘wonderful’ news of baby #4 at age 43. I cried and had nap therapy and cuddles from the hubby and the puppy.

  2. mina Says:

    erm… nothing much to whine about. Feeling good. Which feels strange!
    The holidays have been a rollercoaster of emotions… but this week and therefore, year, started great.
    Maybe it was just relief the holidays were over :-).
    It’s only sometimes when suddenly a fantasy slips into my head of sadness or mostly, aggression. Of someone saying something about childless women, hurting me. Or of my ex-boyfriend, giving me an opportunity to finally shout all the abuse at him that i alway held back trying to be positive and constructive. I guess that means I’m not really “over it” yet.
    But I’ll try to hold on to the good feeling!

  3. mina Says:

    ok i found a whine after all. I’ve been browsing through some old posts here and ended up on the RESLOVE-website (which is great, generally).
    It’s true that I still don’t understand what happened to my relationship. Why it fell apart. There’s not much chance of finding out – he has been gone for 1,5 years now….but i still think about it a lot. All the “what if’s” there….
    so there i go and click on the “you and your partner”-category on the resove-site. Great advice there:” If you cannot openly communicate, you may need to see a couple’s counselor”.
    Well, dear resolve site: we did. It helped f*** all. Just one more person to be angry at. One more person who didn’t support or understand me. *grrrrr*

  4. Erika Says:

    I was really looking forward to this year. Working on my relationship with my hubby and figuring out what our new “normal” is without the whole trying to conceive thing going on. Well, the dream of working it together is gone. He is in the military and just found out today that he is deploying for 9-12 months sometime in the next 2 months. I guess I’ll be working on myself instead of working through it together…And it also means 9-12 lonely months since most of our friends are moving in the next 3-4 months and my neighbors exclude me because I don’t have kids. I think I’m going to go have my own pity party now, and maybe I’ll be in a better mood by the time he gets home from work.

  5. kris Says:

    I know I’m kinda biased but my dad is the absolute best dad in the whole wide world! He’s also one of my best friends and he’s an amazing mentor to my husband. It hurts so much that we’re not going to be able to give him grandchildren.

  6. Mali Says:

    Erika, that’s really tough. Sending hugs.

    As for me, yes, I want to whine. I am feeling my age. Seriously, hot flushes AND PMS and a period at the same time? Not fair!

  7. We are adopting a baby in February. Still crossing my fingers though that nothing goes wrong. Whining because I talked to HR today. Since I’ve been with my company for less than a year, I don’t qualify for FMLA and any time I take off is Personal Time Off without pay. My job is not protected either. :-/

  8. Danie Says:

    …had another one of those “oh, all you need to do is just relax, chill, not think about it and you will get pregnant, you will see”….you know what I say to that? ARE YOU SERIOUS?!?!??! First off, stress is just part of life. Like how can we not have a certain amount of stress when we are working, taking care of our homes, being wives, partners, etc. Life has its demands. I do my best to manage things of course. I don’t run around like a raving lunatic. I have my yoga, I have my exercise, I eat well. I know when to stop. More than this, I don’t think I can do.

    I guess what really bugs me is this magical thinking that folks have. It’s ignorant thinking. They haven’t walked in my shoes. They have no idea what it means to be trying for 3 years with nothing to really show for it except a jacked up credit card.

    The serenity prayer says, G-d grant me the courage to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference…..well, today for Whiny Wednesday? I don’t accept people’s ignorance…..and we are talking about supposed smart people, smart people who are saying really stupid things….no, not today…..:-)

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