Life Without Baby

Filling the silence in the motherhood discussion

Whiny Wednesday: Hot! July 6, 2011

It’s about a million degrees at my house (ok, it’s about 95, but anything over 90 may as well be a million, as far as I’m concerned) and over the past three days I have spent more than 12 hours sitting in a car. All I want to do is go to my local park and run amongst the trees. But it’s too flipping hot!

Aside from that, I’m feeling pretty chipper this week, but it is Whiny Wednesday and the floor is open to get whatever is on your chest off your chest. So, let it all hang out.

For those of you who expressed an interest, here is a link to my interview from yesterday’s Sacramento & Company news show. The host was fantastic, and offscreen, I had a great conversation with him and two of the producers, about being childfree. It’s always good to meet people who get it.


8 Responses to “Whiny Wednesday: Hot!”

  1. Christyb Says:

    Great job with the interview! So many things you said hit home with me. I got married at 35 and my husband and I spent the next 4.5 years trying to start our family (multiple IVFs, DE, the works). We’ve been married five years now, so that was the entire focus of our marriage. I’m now 40 and my husband is 45, and we have finally reached the point where we are trying to move forward as a family of 2, but it is hard. The thing you said about adoption is so true. If we had known how things were going to turn out, we would have chosen that option years ago and would most likely have a child now, but at this point, we just can’t head down that road. That does make me sad, but what are you going to do? It’s time to start focusing on our marriage now.

  2. DAK Says:

    Bummer. For some reason I can’t watch the video….

  3. Monica Says:

    Super great job!! So excited for this part of the journey for you.
    Maybe an evening run is still in the cards later today.
    Congrats again!!

  4. Te Ata Says:

    I’m new to this site, but loving the various topics already- especially Whiny Wednesdays. Sometimes we just need a time and space to whine. =) My whine for today is how quickly people (family/friends) push aside miscarriages from memory. I’m 29 and have had two miscarriages and no one realizes that the wound of losing a pregnancy doesn’t end after all the baby books have been packed and condolence cards have been sent out. I had to face this weekend with a smile as my sister-in-law (who never wanted children and got pregnant a month before I did) had her baby and my mother (who wanted to go shopping for maternity clothes weeks AFTER my miscarriage) babbled on about spending time with her only grandchild (sister’s kid). I mention to my spouse that our child would have been due next month and I get a pat on the knee and he starts talking about baseball and going fishing. He cares, but doesn’t know how to relate. Does anyone else get the same responses? It would just be nice if people didn’t act like nothing happened or try to say “there’s always adoption or IVF” when they don’t have a clue what that entails.

  5. DAK Says:

    Bummer. For some reason I can’t watch the video….

    Finally was able to watch it! You did a Great Job!!

  6. DAK Says:

    Finally was able to watch it! You did a Great Job!!

  7. Charlotte Says:

    Te Ata – yep I get it. I feel my feelings are minimised by others too. My mum fussing over my SIL at her baby shower a month after a number of failed IVF attempts for the year. My husband’s grandmother speaking excitedly about her first great-grandchild (not ours) when she thought “It would never happen” after we had been trying for two years. My best friend asking me about six months later how I was going with the miscarriage thing. Other friends not even asking at all. While you realise they are just struggling to know what to say and do – it is very upsetting and can make you feel like your pain is not recognised and even ignored. I have struggled badly with this my whole infertility journey. I know how you feel and your feelings are important.

    My whine for the week is this – in Australia we can basically get IVF treatment heavily subsidised for years. It costs but is accessible for most couples. Because it is so available to us people seem to not understand why you don;t just keep lining up at the clinic. Why not keep going? I would keep going until I got a baby! Really, you think so? How bout you try it once and then tell me you would keep going after about 9. That’s my whine for Wednesday…… 🙂

  8. mary Says:

    Great interview. I just watched it. You give me hope that someday I could be happy again.

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