If you’re in a relationship and you’ve faced infertility or loss, odds are you’ve been through the wringer. Few people are at their best under stress and when that stress is prolonged, sometimes for years, the edges of even the strongest relationship can get a little frayed and tattered.
Part of the process of coming-to-terms with a life without children is patching that old relationship and moving on down the road. But how do you even start that when so much water has gushed under the bridge? It’s hard. Sometimes when so much has changed, it’s easy to lose track of why the pair of you ever got together in the first place, but those reasons form the glue that will hold the hold mess together when things go wrong.
So, what was it about your spouse that made you decide this was the person you wanted to have children with? What made you fall in love with him or her in the first place?
When your plans for a family don’t go right, take some time to reconnect with your partner to remember what it was that made you ever start out on this journey.
Oh, and don’t forget to keep the spark ignited in the passion department. See this post for ideas!