Life Without Baby

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My New Family January 3, 2011

I love the New Year. I’ve spent most of the past week taking long walks and thinking about what I want my life to be like this time next year. What do I want to learn, where do I want to be, what do I want to do? Then I’ve spent the past couple of days writing down some goals for the year and making a plan of action.

I have lots of career-related goals, but some of my personal goals include participating in a triathlon, learning some new skills (making cheese, learning a language, as examples), and taking a big trip with my husband. I also have a goal this year of celebrating all the holidays with my “family.”

As you may know, my blood relatives live on the other side of the world and my husband’s family is scattered in a non-geographical way, which leaves us with a family of two (plus the cat.) Although we spent the recent holidays very happily as a family of two, I’ll admit to missing time with family. So this year I’m going to make a family to celebrate the holidays with.

My plan is to build a new family of my own choice, made up of people I like who live close enough to actually see at the holidays. I realize that many of them will have families of their own to celebrate with, but those who don’t will be welcome at my celebrations this year. My first family celebration will be a Valentine’s dinner.

What about you? What are some of your goals and wishes for this year? And what does your image of family look like now?


3 Responses to “My New Family”

  1. Natalie Yamano Says:

    Happy New Year to all
    Thank you for this post Lisa. I love New Year as well, being that it is a bigger deal here (Japan), than Christmas.
    We had the same idea as you, to make our ‘own’ family. So, Christmas was shared with a couple who live nearby. Great fun, lots of laughter and good food.
    Goals for this year? Already started one, getting fit. One month into my 10,000 steps a day. Really ‘walking the walk’.

  2. lmanterfield Says:

    Happy New Year, Natalie. Good luck with the stepping. 🙂

  3. Raewyn Dando Says:

    Hi my dear friend Nats – I feel so sad with what you have written – as much of what you are going through – I also am too – but we all have to pick ourselves up and make life the best we can – you must know that I have included you as one of my “new” family members!!! That has been within the past year or two that we have reunited – I would so much like to be in Japan to visit you and Toshi (and cat) – the year we turn 50!!! Perhaps this is the year we start organising our 50th birthdays … what do you think???
    Much love – Raewynxxx

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